Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)

Unique and highly effective

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Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a structured, evidence-based approach to psychotherapy developed by Dr. Sue Johnson in the 1980s. Originally designed for couples, EFT has since been adapted for individuals and families as well. It is rooted in attachment theory, which emphasizes the importance of secure emotional bonds in human development and well-being. EFT aims to help people recognize, explore, and transform the emotional patterns that underlie distress in their relationships, leading to greater connection, trust, and intimacy.

In EFT, emotional experiences are viewed as key drivers of behavior and communication. Often, distress arises not simply from surface-level conflict, but from deeper, unspoken fears and unmet needs for love, security, and acceptance. The therapist helps clients identify these underlying emotions and attachment needs, which are often masked by anger, withdrawal, or criticism. By accessing and expressing these deeper emotions, clients can create new, more responsive patterns of interaction with themselves and others.

A typical EFT process moves through three main stages: de-escalation, restructuring interactions, and consolidation. In the first stage, the therapist helps clients recognize negative cycles of interaction and understand the emotions fueling them. During restructuring, clients are guided to express their core needs and emotions in ways that evoke empathy and responsiveness from others. Finally, in the consolidation stage, new patterns of emotional engagement are strengthened, allowing clients to build lasting, secure bonds.

One of the hallmarks of EFT is its emphasis on creating emotional safety. The therapy fosters an environment where vulnerability is encouraged and accepted, rather than criticized or rejected. By helping individuals and couples share their fears and longings in a supportive space, EFT allows for healing from past relational wounds and promotes resilience in the face of future challenges. Therapists are highly attuned to the emotional shifts occurring moment-by-moment and use interventions carefully to deepen and expand emotional experiences.

Ultimately, Emotionally Focused Therapy offers a hopeful and empowering pathway for transforming relationships. It teaches that emotional connection is not a luxury, but a necessity for psychological health and relational satisfaction. With a strong body of research backing its effectiveness, particularly in treating relationship distress and attachment injuries, EFT stands out as a powerful, compassionate approach to healing the emotional fabric of human connection.

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